Midlife Crisis? How to Find Yourself Again

Midlife Crisis? How to Find Yourself Again

Take a close look at your life. Have you abandoned your interests or caring for yourself for the sake of others? You only do what your partner likes, take up projects at work even when you're overworked, and you're always available for others no matter the time or situation. 

Is this familiar?

Slowly, you stop doing what you love, stop making time for self-care, push your dreams to the back burner. You might even forget who you are!

Reconnecting with yourself

When you're alone, however, you remember the things you love doing but haven't engaged in anymore. Your spirit stirs with longing within you. You know your life is meant for more.


That's a good sign- it shows you're still able and willing to do those things. But need to remember how to say no to the overwhelming demands of others. Also, you need to say yes again to your heart, and to the things you want for your life. 

The first step: your vision

Making a change in life starts with a vision. You imagine, and then believe, and then manifest what you want going forward in life.

Pause for a moment and remember who you were before the mess began. Reconnect to the little girl in you, the one who doesn't live in fear of the opinions of others and isn't afraid to put herself first.

A midlife awakening

Go back to the grand vision you had for your life before you were a spouse, parent, caretaker, colleague, boss, or volunteer.

Some of the trade-ins you made for this vision were upgrades, others were compromises, yet others you did subconsciously. It's time for you to turn that around.

Reconnecting to your vision: a guided journey

Do you want to revive those dreams that are still alive in you? There's a way. And it involves an unlikely item- your childhood photos.

looking at the photo album


If possible, retrieve your old photo albums yearbooks, and scrapbooks right now. If you can't do it now, make a note to do it later.

Look through your photographs slowly. Look into your eyes. What were your thoughts about your future? What made you happy? What did you want to be when you grew up? What were your favorite hobbies? Which parts of the world did you long to see?


Select a favorite photo of yourself from the pile. Look at it, then close your eyes and take a deep breath through your nose and exhale slowly through your mouth. Repeat this two more times.

With your eyes still closed, put your right hand over your heart.

Take a moment then place your left hand on top of your right. Take another deep breath. Think about the compassion you have given to others all these years. Direct this compassion to yourself and ask your heart this question:

Dear heart, what do you want?

Listen for an answer. Then open your eyes.


Whatever the answer is, take it and believe it. Is it travel? Or is it helping others? Maybe it's to create beautiful things. Look at your life and see how you can start returning to what you want, one day at a time. 

It can be that simple if you let it.

You can be free from the drudgery of midlife crisis if you follow this process. Embrace the life you want, starting today.

With love,

​The Sole Toscana Beauty Team